INTRODUCTION
The year 1965 was defined by a specific kind of domestic tension in the boroughs of New York, a friction between the post-war expectation of stability and the burgeoning volatility of the creative arts. For Susan Deixler, the reality of her marriage to a young Barry Pincus was not one of traditional conflict, but of a quiet, encroaching realization. As she observed the man who would become Barry Manilow lose himself in the intricate mechanics of composition, she recognized a truth that few at twenty-one possess the fortitude to acknowledge: her husband’s ambition was not a hobby, but a vocation that required an absolute, singular focus. Her decision to let him walk away was not a defeat, but an act of profound, sophisticated altruism that effectively served as the silent launchpad for one of the most successful careers in the history of global entertainment.
THE DETAILED STORY

The narrative of “the woman left behind” is often steeped in bitterness, yet the historical record of the Manilow-Deixler union is remarkably devoid of such rancor. Susan’s sacrifice was characterized by a rare psychological maturity; she understood that to hold onto the man would be to stifle the artist. When the marriage was annulled in 1966, there were no protracted legal battles or public denunciations. Instead, there was a dignified retreat. Deixler allowed Manilow the freedom to navigate the treacherous waters of the Manhattan jingle industry and the Broadway circuit without the gravitational pull of domestic obligation. This clean break allowed him to cultivate the “showman” persona with a meticulous intensity that would have been impossible under the weight of a traditional family structure.
This absence of friction is perhaps the most overlooked element of Manilow’s origin story. As he prepares for his 02/14/2026 residency return at the Westgate, the contrast between his current $50 million-plus annual revenue and the modest Brooklyn beginnings is stark. Yet, the intellectual foundation of his success remains rooted in that early moment of grace. By refusing to turn their separation into a spectacle of litigiousness, Deixler preserved the sanctity of his creative spirit during its most vulnerable phase. She essentially provided the emotional capital that allowed him to invest entirely in himself.

Today, in an era where celebrity divorces are often weaponized for social media engagement, the 1966 transition stands as a paradigm of class and restraint. Manilow’s later admissions of “immaturity” are balanced by the reality that Deixler’s maturity provided the necessary space for his growth. The silence she maintained for over half a century is not merely privacy; it is a legacy of its own. It is the quiet, foundational support upon which the “Copacabana” and “Mandy” empires were built. As the curtain rises in Las Vegas this February, the resonance of his music owes a debt to the woman who understood that some voices are meant to be shared with millions rather than kept within four walls.
